Um, what do I look like?

I've decided to have a different resolution for every month of 2012, make it more interesting than one thing for the whole year doomed to be broken in the first week. This January I've gone without two "necessities", diet coke and Boojum burritos. For February though, I wanted to raise the bar, do something a bit more challenging.
I've given up a fair few things in the past several years, and they've always revolved around my diet in some way. Partially because I love food so much, but mainly because I wanted to combine my resolution with toning up, looking good, with feeling better about my outward self. It never worked. I never felt better. So this time, I want my resolution to be about getting to the root of my insecurities, shedding my worldly identity and focusing on my heavenly one. Since my previous blog entry, I have been pondering ways I can learn to love myself more. Love myself the way God loves me. Unconditionally. My insecurities too often get in the way, but they don't get in God's way. I want him to teach me how I can get over and beyond them. So I'm kicking two of the things that stir up lies about myself for 29 days; facebook, and mirrors.

I've hesitated a fair bit about this, the idea of not being able to see what I look like, not being able to look my "best" for others and for myself is daunting, but all my reasons for not going for it are precisely why I think it's important I do it!
I check myself out in the mirror more often than I'd like to admit. It hit me a few weeks ago that I spend more time in front of the mirror getting ready on a daily basis than with God. After I got over the ridiculousness of this fact, the fact that it can't be good for me, I decided to do something about it. Mirrors reflect how YOU see yourself, not how others see you. The funny/ironic/somewhat sad thing about spending excessive amounts of time ensuring you look good enough for the eyes of others in front of the mirror, is that the end result isn't actually how they see you. They see you through their eyes, not yours. On top of this, you aren't the you you see in the mirror. The mirror you is just a reflection of what you look like when you stand in a specific way, pout in your favourite way, grimace in a particular way. You are so much more complex, intricate, elaborate, wonderful than that reflection. So if the person you think of yourself as being is in accordance with who you see in the mirror, it's bound to be incomplete. If you spend more time working on your mirror image than figuring out God's image of you, then you're bound to feel insecure and obsess over your looks.
Facebook, beyond being a sweet, entertaining, useful way to keep in touch and network with folk around the world, has become somewhere I show the parts of myself I want others to see, and somewhere I compare my whole self to the parts of others they want the world to see. There's something not quite healthy about that. And if I'm going to give up mirrors, it makes a lot of sense to simultaneously give up my virtual mirror. The mirror reflection of myself and my "reflection" I can share with others by updating my profile and commenting on others'.
For a month I want to loose the mirror focus, my superficial self, and replace it with one that actually matters. My identity is too tied up in what I look like, and it's getting in the way of my identity in Christ. I know it's not going change my life to the point where I'm not going to have a care about what others think, but I hope it'll be a step further in not letting my thoughts about what their thoughts are define me! It won't be an easy task. I rely on facebook to keep me occupied, to keep in touch with people. And my reflection isn't something that's going to be easy to get away from. I'm bound to catch a glimpse of it every once in a while, but I'm going to commit to not focusing on the image I see, to getting out of the habit of taking a sneaky glance when I walk past a shop window, to tame my hair with the help of my shadow. This woman is doing it for an entire year. AND she got married this year! Here's to getting through the shortest of the months!